Introduction to Healthy Relationship
A relationship is something that has a life. If it is to grow and blossom, a relationship must be fed and nurtured with wholesome energy. This energy comes from knowing who you are, knowing what’s really important, knowing what your values are.
Basically, a relationship is a connection between two or more people. In our lives, we have many different kinds of relationships with our family, our friends, our teachers and our neighbors. A healthy relationship can be influenced by many factors like Trust in your partner, respect and communication .
Relationships should be built on security, trust, and understanding. If you are unhappy in your relationships, you need to move away from the patterns that keep taking you to an unhappy place and begin to create new patterns and attractors for healthy relationships.
A model for healthy relationship
List your relationships in order of importance and value. Next to each relationship, write down what is required in order to keep each one of those relationships strong and healthy.
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Now use your vision of the causal domain to enter that energy level and think about each of these relationships. Are they healthy? Do they nurture you? Do you bring your best self to these relationships? How is the power of your mind, your heart, your spirit, present in each relationship?
If the answers reveal your relationship to be healthy, then you must make a commitment to do whatever it takes to maintain each relationship in an optimum state.
But if the answers reveal that some of your relationships are unhealthy, then you must rethink what you want in relationships with these particular people. You must ask yourself whether you should change the way you think and act concerning that relationship, or whether you should take yourself completely out of the relationship so that your energy can be directed toward finding other emotional and spiritual fulfillment.
Action Exercise: Visualizing your ideal Self in Relationship
Enter into a comfortable, relaxed position, and think about yourself in the area of relationships. How do you see yourself? How do you appear when you are with a certain significant person? Notice your body posture, facial expressions, actions, and behaviors. What are the abilities and capabilities you bring to this relationship? Is the picture you evoke bigger than life? Smaller than life? Is it in motion, or is it still?
Now set this image aside, take a deep breath, and begin to think about the ideal you in relation to this same significant person. Imagine how you could be, and how you would like to be. When you think about the ideal you in this relationship, how do you appear? Notice your body posture, facial expressions, attitudes, actions, behaviors. This is your ideal self in relationship. This is how you want to be and how you can be.
As you did in Exercise, you are visualizing your present self and your ideal self in the same situation. Your challenge is to generate a pattern of who and what you want to be, in order to generate a change in your causal energy and begin living out your ideal self in your relationships.
This is a way in which you can effect change by taking responsibility for yourself and for the shape of your own energy. This is positive change, which begins in the causal domain.
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